Loss

The loss of a dear one is always a devastating experience, but when one knows that the person has lived a long fulfilled life, it does give some degree of comfort. When one loses an unborn child, it leaves one feeling perplexed, clueless and helpless along with the grief that comes with a loss. I think almost all mothers also feel some degree of guilt if they lose an unborn child. I have experienced this loss in my first pregnancy and although it was towards the end of first trimester, it left me completely devastated. It took me a long time to get back to some semblance of normalcy. Even today, after I have had Sunshine, sometimes I wonder what went wrong, what could have been and what could I do differently.

My dear friend, Ms Positive is going through the loss now and for the second time in her young life. She is fluctuating between several emotions, but she is still trying to keep it together and make it as bearable as possible for her and her family. She is taking help and strength from her friends, but at times, she loses trust in herself as this is happening the second time. She is questioning herself and her actions in life and priorities.

Although I know that a strong and positive person like her will eventually come out of this, it saddens me immensely that a good soul like her has to go through this. I guess no one has answers to why bad things happen to good people. At the moment, I am just hoping and praying that she gets the strength to go through her pain and comes out of it without losing her spirit. The only saving grace at the moment is her sweet little child.